1 00:00:11,220 --> 00:00:18,256 Is it true that a wife's duties do not include cooking, washing, and the like. 2 00:00:18,340 --> 00:00:25,440 in her husband's home, and that serving him is only an act of kindness? 3 00:00:26,220 --> 00:00:32,240 And would refusing housework count as disobeying her husband? 4 00:00:32,780 --> 00:00:33,840 May Allah reward you. 5 00:00:35,060 --> 00:00:36,720 All praise is for Allah ﷻ. 6 00:00:38,040 --> 00:00:43,160 As for what was mentioned in the question, some fuqaha said it. 7 00:00:45,380 --> 00:00:53,180 But it is the weaker view, for two reasons. 8 00:00:54,840 --> 00:01:01,020 The first is that Allah ﷻ says, "And live with them in kindness." 9 00:01:02,080 --> 00:01:06,340 And He says, "For them are rights just as they have duties, fairly." 10 00:01:07,840 --> 00:01:11,540 Custom means what people customarily do. 11 00:01:13,660 --> 00:01:19,399 among Muslims, so long as it does not contradict the Sharia of Allah ﷻ. 12 00:01:20,340 --> 00:01:21,780 So the wife is obliged. 13 00:01:22,980 --> 00:01:28,536 to live with her husband as is customary. 14 00:01:28,620 --> 00:01:30,916 so long as it does not oppose Allah's law. 15 00:01:31,000 --> 00:01:35,100 This has been Muslims' custom, both in the past and the present. 16 00:01:36,120 --> 00:01:38,300 A woman serves her husband. 17 00:01:39,480 --> 00:01:45,640 And she serves her husband fully at home. 18 00:01:46,720 --> 00:01:51,140 How can married life be pleasant? And how can it be in kindness? 19 00:01:51,620 --> 00:01:55,580 if a woman does not serve her husband? 20 00:01:56,480 --> 00:02:00,336 Allah ﷻ says, "Live with them in kindness." 21 00:02:00,420 --> 00:02:03,196 And women have rights similar to their duties, in kindness. 22 00:02:03,280 --> 00:02:07,536 This proves that a woman must. 23 00:02:07,620 --> 00:02:12,160 do for her husband what is customary. 24 00:02:12,540 --> 00:02:17,500 without extravagance or stinginess. That is, without excess or neglect. 25 00:02:18,000 --> 00:02:24,100 We have mentioned the custom of Muslims since the Prophet ﷺ. 26 00:02:24,460 --> 00:02:28,900 Until this day, a woman serves her husband. 27 00:02:30,460 --> 00:02:37,620 The second point is that the Prophet ﷺ ordered a woman to obey her husband. 28 00:02:38,780 --> 00:02:40,260 And he stressed this. 29 00:02:41,100 --> 00:02:45,640 He said, "If I were to command anyone to prostrate to another. 30 00:02:45,740 --> 00:02:49,320 I would command a woman to prostrate to her husband. 31 00:02:50,140 --> 00:02:52,500 Because of his great right over her." 32 00:02:53,520 --> 00:02:59,836 And if a man orders his wife to do something and she does not do it. 33 00:02:59,920 --> 00:03:03,660 If he grows angry with her, the Merciful's angels are angry with her. 34 00:03:07,120 --> 00:03:13,020 So the husband commands her to serve him. It is obligatory for her to obey him. 35 00:03:14,740 --> 00:03:18,060 This is the Sharia ruling. It is the majority view, and correct. 36 00:03:19,460 --> 00:03:22,656 One case is excepted from this. 37 00:03:22,740 --> 00:03:28,020 If the woman is among those for whom it is customary not to serve. 38 00:03:30,520 --> 00:03:34,060 That is an exception, because it falls outside the custom. 39 00:03:34,800 --> 00:03:38,720 So if the woman is from a family with an established custom in that town. 40 00:03:39,620 --> 00:03:45,440 That the people of a house, or its women, for rank or the like, do not serve. 41 00:03:46,080 --> 00:03:47,860 Then she is exempt from this. 42 00:03:48,380 --> 00:03:54,800 Then I say: one who speaks to people must be a faqih. 43 00:03:55,320 --> 00:03:57,760 Not everything one knows should be said. 44 00:03:58,720 --> 00:04:04,960 Rather, one who speaks to people should seek what betters their lives. 45 00:04:06,060 --> 00:04:11,820 and spread happiness in families, for family happiness is desired. 46 00:04:14,520 --> 00:04:17,995 How can there be happiness between a husband and his wife? 47 00:04:18,079 --> 00:04:22,860 And you hear one speaking of knowledge, or seeming to be learned. 48 00:04:23,280 --> 00:04:28,990 telling her, "You need not serve your husband." Then he comes for food. 49 00:04:29,440 --> 00:04:32,580 She says, "By Allah, the shaykh says I need not serve you." 50 00:04:34,240 --> 00:04:38,540 Where will the love and affection required by Sharia be among spouses? 51 00:04:39,300 --> 00:04:41,450 Where will kind marital conduct be? 52 00:04:41,920 --> 00:04:48,060 This contradicts the aims of the Sharia. So, brothers, this is fiqh, real fiqh. 53 00:04:49,060 --> 00:04:51,600 Do not spread everything you know. 54 00:04:53,120 --> 00:04:57,940 Rather, spread what fulfills the Lawgiver's objectives. 55 00:04:59,100 --> 00:05:03,880 Some people, and Allah is our help, know little or lack good judgment. 56 00:05:04,300 --> 00:05:08,720 He goes and reads books. If he finds something odd, he shows it to people. 57 00:05:09,540 --> 00:05:13,276 And he says, "The scholars said it." Yes, some scholars did say it. 58 00:05:13,360 --> 00:05:16,776 But it yields no good among people. 59 00:05:16,860 --> 00:05:20,456 So there is one point, brothers, that I always mention: 60 00:05:20,540 --> 00:05:27,300 When a person wants to speak, he must consider three matters. 61 00:05:29,040 --> 00:05:31,980 The first matter is that the speech must be true. 62 00:05:33,800 --> 00:05:36,820 It must be established and conform to the Sharia. 63 00:05:37,800 --> 00:05:43,440 Not everything some jurists said is supported by the evidence. 64 00:05:45,000 --> 00:05:49,140 The second point is that the intent be sound. 65 00:05:50,400 --> 00:05:55,316 Your aim in speaking should be for the sake of Allah ﷻ. 66 00:05:55,400 --> 00:05:58,520 Do not let your aim be to win over women. 67 00:06:01,640 --> 00:06:06,280 Do not let your aim be to win people with strange things they do not know. 68 00:06:07,280 --> 00:06:10,196 Rather, let your aim be for the sake of Allah ﷻ. 69 00:06:10,280 --> 00:06:14,840 The third point is that speech be sound in its effect. 70 00:06:16,360 --> 00:06:21,300 Thus it should truly bear fruit, spread good, and point to good. 71 00:06:23,600 --> 00:06:28,516 If speech leads to greater harm than the benefit it brings. 72 00:06:28,600 --> 00:06:33,356 Then it is not permissible to say it or spread it. 73 00:06:33,440 --> 00:06:35,736 This point should be clarified. 74 00:06:35,820 --> 00:06:38,630 And I say, O husbands and wives. 75 00:06:41,680 --> 00:06:44,340 Let your principle be living together in kindness. 76 00:06:45,740 --> 00:06:51,200 Let it be the home's happiness and tranquility. By Allah. 77 00:06:52,040 --> 00:06:55,120 No heart will be at peace until the home is at peace. 78 00:06:56,300 --> 00:06:59,520 And the heart will not be at peace nor will the home be at peace. 79 00:07:00,400 --> 00:07:07,136 Only when the family unites on Allah's Book and the Sunnah of His Messenger ﷺ. 80 00:07:07,220 --> 00:07:10,096 And on love and living together in kindness. 81 00:07:10,180 --> 00:07:16,560 I have two printed booklets. One is called Causes of Family Happiness. 82 00:07:18,780 --> 00:07:20,940 The other is called Rights of the Spouses. 83 00:07:22,920 --> 00:07:26,660 I based it on proofs from the Book and the Sunnah. 84 00:07:27,320 --> 00:07:30,940 I hope there is good in it for families. Allah knows best.