1 00:00:03,120 --> 00:00:05,860 Peace be upon you and Allah's mercy and His blessings. 2 00:00:07,580 --> 00:00:09,436 Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds. 3 00:00:09,520 --> 00:00:12,020 And the fullest, most perfect blessings and peace. 4 00:00:12,380 --> 00:00:14,456 upon the one sent as mercy to the worlds. 5 00:00:14,540 --> 00:00:17,860 and upon his family and companions all. As for what follows. 6 00:00:19,960 --> 00:00:25,316 So we continue our sessions. 7 00:00:25,400 --> 00:00:28,796 today, on the second day of this course. 8 00:00:28,880 --> 00:00:33,330 which I ask Allah ﷻ to make beneficial and blessed. 9 00:00:34,260 --> 00:00:37,860 and gladden us by it when we meet Him ﷻ. 10 00:00:40,580 --> 00:00:43,260 And we continue explaining. 11 00:00:44,500 --> 00:00:48,080 the principles of dealing with family and companions. 12 00:00:54,540 --> 00:00:57,336 And it will be as it was yesterday, if Allah wills. 13 00:00:57,420 --> 00:01:01,216 a third of an hour before the adhan, if Allah wills. 14 00:01:01,300 --> 00:01:05,260 we will stop presenting the lesson material. 15 00:01:05,400 --> 00:01:10,080 and explain, if Allah ﷻ wills, or answer questions. 16 00:01:12,140 --> 00:01:16,400 And tomorrow, if Allah ﷻ wills, we will speak about. 17 00:01:16,980 --> 00:01:20,196 the Prophet ﷺ with his family. 18 00:01:20,280 --> 00:01:23,880 and the Prophet ﷺ with his companions. 19 00:01:26,500 --> 00:01:34,140 The eleventh principle: treating family and companions with forgiveness. 20 00:01:36,180 --> 00:01:43,600 Pardoning Allah's servants is a cause of Allah's forgiveness. 21 00:01:45,740 --> 00:01:50,820 It is also a cause of honor, empowerment, and Allah's help ﷻ. 22 00:01:52,260 --> 00:01:57,520 So what then of pardon and forgiveness for family and companions? 23 00:01:59,440 --> 00:02:05,960 No doubt, this is better, and its reward with Allah is greater. 24 00:02:07,640 --> 00:02:12,500 Allah ﷻ says, “Let them pardon and overlook.” 25 00:02:12,600 --> 00:02:15,416 “Would you not love that Allah should forgive you?” 26 00:02:15,500 --> 00:02:20,220 Allah is Forgiving, Most Merciful.” The scholars said this verse indicates. 27 00:02:21,340 --> 00:02:25,636 that a servant's pardon of Allah's servants. 28 00:02:25,720 --> 00:02:31,516 is a cause for Allah's forgiveness ﷻ. 29 00:02:31,600 --> 00:02:35,360 How much we need Allah to forgive us. 30 00:02:36,540 --> 00:02:42,540 Ibn Umar RA reported that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said. 31 00:02:43,300 --> 00:02:54,380 "No act is greater in reward with Allah than swallowing anger for His sake." 32 00:02:55,400 --> 00:02:58,580 Reported by Ibn Majah and authenticated by al-Albani. 33 00:03:01,080 --> 00:03:14,220 Part of restraining anger is to pardon the one who provoked it. 34 00:03:18,160 --> 00:03:23,520 Abu Hurayrah RA reported that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said. 35 00:03:23,660 --> 00:03:26,080 "Charity does not decrease wealth." 36 00:03:27,060 --> 00:03:30,480 "And Allah only increases a servant in honor through pardon." 37 00:03:31,520 --> 00:03:33,660 Reported by Muslim in his Sahih. 38 00:03:34,720 --> 00:03:42,040 Ibn al-Qayyim RH said: Pardoning others seems degrading and humiliating. 39 00:03:43,300 --> 00:03:46,700 But inwardly it is honor and awe. 40 00:03:47,960 --> 00:03:51,020 Whoever pardons his family and companions. 41 00:03:51,920 --> 00:03:56,720 Allah casts his awe into the hearts of his family and companions. 42 00:03:58,520 --> 00:04:04,420 Ibn al-Qayyim RH said: A person's pardon seems low and shameful. 43 00:04:05,480 --> 00:04:07,640 But inwardly it is honor and awe. 44 00:04:08,360 --> 00:04:15,040 Revenge seems honor outwardly but inwardly it is humiliation. 45 00:04:15,980 --> 00:04:19,440 Allah only increases a servant in honor through pardon. 46 00:04:20,540 --> 00:04:25,020 No one avenged himself except that he was humiliated. 47 00:04:25,200 --> 00:04:29,720 Even if only by losing the honor of pardon. 48 00:04:31,520 --> 00:04:37,560 That is why the Messenger of Allah ﷺ never took revenge for himself. 49 00:04:38,760 --> 00:04:46,300 Then he said, RH: Pardon is among the traits of the tranquil soul. 50 00:04:46,480 --> 00:04:50,200 Humiliation is among the traits of the soul that incites. 51 00:04:51,160 --> 00:04:56,480 If your enemy goes too far in abuse, then go even further in pardon. 52 00:05:01,120 --> 00:05:04,680 He said: The common folk will insult him for you. 53 00:05:05,740 --> 00:05:10,180 And scholars will praise your forbearance toward an enemy. 54 00:05:12,960 --> 00:05:18,066 This only happens to one who sees that he was given power over him. 55 00:05:18,150 --> 00:05:20,740 Either as punishment for a sin. 56 00:05:20,840 --> 00:05:23,600 Or as a rise in rank through trial. 57 00:05:24,580 --> 00:05:30,000 In reality, the believer sees this even with family and friends. 58 00:05:32,180 --> 00:05:39,860 Your family's slip against you may be due to a sin you committed. 59 00:05:40,800 --> 00:05:43,456 Hence scholars give this counsel. 60 00:05:43,540 --> 00:05:50,840 If his family changes toward him, let him check his state with Allah ﷻ. 61 00:05:56,180 --> 00:05:58,380 He may indeed be sinning. 62 00:06:02,320 --> 00:06:07,824 Then his family may turn against him because of his sin. 63 00:06:07,908 --> 00:06:11,804 And that may be to raise his rank with Allah ﷻ. 64 00:06:11,888 --> 00:06:17,404 For when Allah ﷻ intends for a servant a rank in Paradise beyond his deeds. 65 00:06:17,488 --> 00:06:20,528 He says to His angels: Pour trials upon him in abundance. 66 00:06:23,088 --> 00:06:25,968 And that may be through his family and his friends. 67 00:06:27,388 --> 00:06:34,308 So the believer takes that into account with family and friends. 68 00:06:36,688 --> 00:06:41,853 Abu Firas ibn Hamdan said. 69 00:06:41,937 --> 00:06:45,788 Since I first was, I was only at my close friends' command. 70 00:06:47,368 --> 00:06:51,008 Parting from loved ones is not my way. 71 00:06:52,168 --> 00:06:56,868 He wrongs me, and I pardon him with tenderness, always. 72 00:06:57,948 --> 00:07:02,648 Nothing is finer than one who is kind to his offender. 73 00:07:03,508 --> 00:07:10,768 How beautiful this verse is. He wrongs me; I pardon him ever tenderly. 74 00:07:11,868 --> 00:07:17,248 Nothing is finer than one who is kind to his offender. 75 00:07:18,288 --> 00:07:21,268 Tenderness only appears when an offense is committed. 76 00:07:22,788 --> 00:07:27,368 Tenderness when pleased is something anyone can do. 77 00:07:29,108 --> 00:07:34,788 But tenderness at offense comes only from the noble. 78 00:07:36,828 --> 00:07:46,088 The twelfth principle: humility with family and friends, avoiding pride. 79 00:07:50,988 --> 00:07:57,508 Humility means dealing with family and friends humbly, without pride. 80 00:07:58,488 --> 00:08:00,948 Part of that is accepting their advice. 81 00:08:02,468 --> 00:08:07,548 A sign of humility is that a husband accepts his wife's advice. 82 00:08:09,008 --> 00:08:11,368 And a wife accepts her husband's advice. 83 00:08:12,308 --> 00:08:15,028 And that a person accepts advice from his companions. 84 00:08:18,508 --> 00:08:22,448 It is narrated from 'Iyad ibn Himar RA that he said. 85 00:08:22,548 --> 00:08:25,628 The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said. 86 00:08:25,728 --> 00:08:29,568 "Allah revealed to me that you should be humble." 87 00:08:29,668 --> 00:08:32,808 "until no one transgresses against another." 88 00:08:33,508 --> 00:08:35,764 "and no one boasts over another." 89 00:08:35,848 --> 00:08:39,288 Narrated by Abu Dawud and Ibn Majah. Authenticated by al-Albani. 90 00:08:40,148 --> 00:08:44,768 And from Abu Hurayrah, from the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, who said. 91 00:08:44,868 --> 00:08:47,708 "Charity does not decrease wealth." 92 00:08:48,388 --> 00:08:52,628 "Allah increases a servant only in honor through pardon." 93 00:08:53,128 --> 00:08:59,228 "Whoever humbles himself for Allah, Allah raises him." Narrated by Muslim. 94 00:09:00,208 --> 00:09:04,548 Part of humbling yourself for Allah is humbling yourself to Allah's servants. 95 00:09:06,888 --> 00:09:12,688 And be humble before those closest to you: your family and companions. 96 00:09:15,748 --> 00:09:18,288 A heart filled with faith. 97 00:09:20,068 --> 00:09:27,818 Fear of Allah ﷻ makes its bearer humble to Allah's creation. 98 00:09:28,808 --> 00:09:33,808 I will be brief now to conclude these principles here. 99 00:09:34,408 --> 00:09:37,408 Tomorrow we will move to the second and third matters. 100 00:09:37,968 --> 00:09:42,588 The 13th principle: patience with their harm. 101 00:09:42,708 --> 00:09:45,628 And overlooking their slips. 102 00:09:48,328 --> 00:09:49,868 No servant, after seeking Allah's ﷻ help, 103 00:09:53,548 --> 00:09:59,168 has found no better aid in dealing with people 104 00:10:00,868 --> 00:10:04,308 than patience. 105 00:10:05,728 --> 00:10:11,248 Allah ﷻ says, “O you who believe, seek help through patience and prayer. 106 00:10:11,348 --> 00:10:14,064 Allah is with the patient.” 107 00:10:14,148 --> 00:10:18,404 And He ﷻ says, “Whoever fears Allah and is patient. 108 00:10:18,488 --> 00:10:21,228 the reward of the good-doers is never lost.” 109 00:10:22,208 --> 00:10:27,044 And He ﷻ says, “We made from them leaders guiding by Our command. 110 00:10:27,128 --> 00:10:32,668 when they were patient and certain of Our signs.” 111 00:10:34,068 --> 00:10:37,693 Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah RH said. 112 00:10:37,777 --> 00:10:41,528 A person must live among people. 113 00:10:43,808 --> 00:10:49,148 People have desires. 114 00:10:49,688 --> 00:10:51,748 They want him to agree with them. 115 00:10:52,808 --> 00:10:56,408 If he does not, they harm him and torment him. 116 00:10:57,528 --> 00:11:02,868 Whoever Allah ﷻ guides and directs refrains from what is forbidden. 117 00:11:03,928 --> 00:11:06,008 And bears their harm patiently. 118 00:11:06,928 --> 00:11:12,408 This is regarding people in general. So what about his family? 119 00:11:14,968 --> 00:11:17,068 And what about those among his companions? 120 00:11:22,848 --> 00:11:27,008 Well-being with family and companions lies in overlooking their faults. 121 00:11:28,728 --> 00:11:32,388 It means a person overlooks slips. 122 00:11:33,348 --> 00:11:39,168 He should not dwell on everything or inspect everything. 123 00:11:40,628 --> 00:11:44,904 Al-Bayhaqi narrated with his chain from Muhammad ibn Abdillah al-Khuza'i. 124 00:11:44,988 --> 00:11:49,528 He said: I heard Uthman ibn Zaidah say. 125 00:11:49,648 --> 00:11:56,148 Well-being is ten parts. Nine of them are in overlooking. 126 00:11:58,108 --> 00:12:03,888 Well-being is ten parts. Nine of them are in overlooking. 127 00:12:04,348 --> 00:12:08,128 He said: I related this to Ahmad ibn Hanbal. 128 00:12:08,848 --> 00:12:13,667 He replied, 'Well-being is ten parts. 129 00:12:14,188 --> 00:12:20,454 All of them are in overlooking. Well-being is ten parts. 130 00:12:20,538 --> 00:12:24,898 All of them are in overlooking.' Al-Bayhaqi also narrated. 131 00:12:24,998 --> 00:12:29,238 from 'Amr ibn Uthman al-Makki that he said. 132 00:12:29,398 --> 00:12:34,118 Nobility is overlooking brothers' slips. 133 00:12:35,378 --> 00:12:39,478 Nobility is overlooking brothers' slips. 134 00:12:40,338 --> 00:12:45,994 Al-Rabi'i narrated: I heard al-Shafi'i say. 135 00:12:46,078 --> 00:12:51,498 The intelligent, sensible one is one who perceives and overlooks. 136 00:12:52,578 --> 00:12:59,298 He is clever, not stupid, but he overlooks. 137 00:13:00,738 --> 00:13:04,218 He sees something and acts as if he did not see it. 138 00:13:05,578 --> 00:13:09,638 He knows of something but does not show he knows it. 139 00:13:11,258 --> 00:13:16,078 He overlooks slips. And it was said. 140 00:13:16,958 --> 00:13:22,238 I do not cut off my brothers for their slips. There is no good. 141 00:13:22,358 --> 00:13:25,338 in one who cuts off brothers because of slips. 142 00:13:27,438 --> 00:13:32,938 And it was said: I shut my eyes to my friend, out of nobility. 143 00:13:34,178 --> 00:13:40,178 as though I were ignorant of his ignorance. I am not. 144 00:13:41,278 --> 00:13:44,078 Ignorant of the folly he shows. 145 00:13:45,118 --> 00:13:48,878 But I close my eyes, overlooking it. 146 00:13:49,778 --> 00:13:53,818 He said: I close my eyes to my friend, out of courtesy. 147 00:13:54,658 --> 00:13:58,058 As though I were ignorant of the folly he commits. 148 00:13:58,978 --> 00:14:03,594 It is not that I am ignorant, but that this is my nature. 149 00:14:03,678 --> 00:14:07,378 Can bear the dislike that he may harbor. 150 00:14:08,658 --> 00:14:13,254 If I cut off my brothers for every stumble. 151 00:14:13,338 --> 00:14:17,518 I would remain all alone with no one to befriend. 152 00:14:19,258 --> 00:14:24,478 Some wise men said: The prudent one wisely overlooks. 153 00:14:25,518 --> 00:14:28,118 It was said to a sage: What is noble conduct? 154 00:14:29,178 --> 00:14:33,358 He said: Overlooking your brothers' slip. 155 00:14:34,898 --> 00:14:39,518 The fourteenth principle: choosing companions. 156 00:14:44,178 --> 00:14:49,158 Selecting whom to sit with and how to sit with companions. 157 00:14:50,278 --> 00:14:55,818 This is a principle for dealing with companions before befriending them. 158 00:14:57,638 --> 00:15:01,998 A companion draws you along, and the associate draws near. 159 00:15:03,838 --> 00:15:09,858 So one ought to choose companions. 160 00:15:11,898 --> 00:15:17,734 Abu Hurayrah RA reported that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said. 161 00:15:17,818 --> 00:15:23,898 “A man follows the religion of his friend, so look whom you befriend.” 162 00:15:24,658 --> 00:15:29,168 Reported by Ahmad, Abu Dawud, al-Tirmidhi; graded hasan by al-Albani. 163 00:15:30,718 --> 00:15:37,538 Abu Sa'id RA reported hearing the Messenger of Allah ﷺ say. 164 00:15:37,658 --> 00:15:43,718 “Keep company with none but a believer, and let only the pious eat your food.” 165 00:15:44,738 --> 00:15:48,318 Reported by Ahmad, Abu Dawud, al-Tirmidhi; graded hasan by al-Albani. 166 00:15:49,338 --> 00:15:54,274 Asma bint Yazid al-Ansariyyah RA said. 167 00:15:54,358 --> 00:16:00,118 The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: “Shall I tell you of the best among you?” 168 00:16:00,918 --> 00:16:03,458 They said, “Yes.” He said. 169 00:16:03,658 --> 00:16:07,758 “The best of you are those who, when seen, Allah is remembered.” 170 00:16:09,118 --> 00:16:16,177 Reported by Ahmad. One should choose believing companions. 171 00:16:17,458 --> 00:16:20,578 who, when you see them, make you remember Allah. 172 00:16:23,478 --> 00:16:26,034 Ibn Abbas (RA) reported. 173 00:16:26,118 --> 00:16:29,638 It was said, “O Messenger of Allah, which of our companions is best?” 174 00:16:30,798 --> 00:16:35,278 He said, “The one who, when seen, makes you remember Allah.” 175 00:16:37,638 --> 00:16:39,458 Reported by Abu Ya'la. 176 00:16:41,618 --> 00:16:47,178 So one should choose a righteous companion. 177 00:16:48,658 --> 00:16:51,898 And know how to sit with people. 178 00:16:53,138 --> 00:16:55,938 Ibn al-Jawzi (RH) said. 179 00:16:56,778 --> 00:17:03,558 Mixing with people, especially ordinary people, makes one forget death. 180 00:17:04,898 --> 00:17:11,638 It breeds laziness in worship, idleness, heedlessness, and comfort. 181 00:17:12,838 --> 00:17:22,618 For one used to mixing with people, study or worship is hard. 182 00:17:23,858 --> 00:17:29,334 And he keeps mixing with them constantly. 183 00:17:29,418 --> 00:17:32,098 until backbiting becomes easy for him. 184 00:17:33,458 --> 00:17:36,778 And the hours are wasted on nothing. 185 00:17:38,878 --> 00:17:44,178 He (RH) said, I have not seen greater harm to the believer. 186 00:17:45,018 --> 00:17:49,978 Than mixing with one who is no good and does no good. 187 00:17:51,338 --> 00:17:56,638 For human nature steals. Even if he does not resemble them 188 00:17:57,758 --> 00:18:03,698 or take traits from them, his efforts will grow slack. 189 00:18:04,818 --> 00:18:10,798 Ibn al-Qayyim RH said: The useful guideline on social mixing. 190 00:18:11,538 --> 00:18:13,718 is to mix with people in good. 191 00:18:14,618 --> 00:18:18,398 and avoid them in evil and superfluous lawful matters. 192 00:18:19,178 --> 00:18:24,450 And if there is a need to mix with them in needless lawful matters. 193 00:18:24,990 --> 00:18:32,040 let him strive to turn that gathering into obedience to Allah, if able. 194 00:18:33,030 --> 00:18:36,720 Let him encourage himself and strengthen his heart. 195 00:18:37,670 --> 00:18:42,930 and pay no heed to the satanic prompting that cuts him off from it. 196 00:18:43,850 --> 00:18:49,330 So the point of this principle is 197 00:18:50,270 --> 00:18:56,530 that one should choose his companions by the Sharia standard 198 00:18:57,350 --> 00:19:01,590 and know how to interact with his companions. 199 00:19:02,430 --> 00:19:07,930 so that being with his companions increases goodness. 200 00:19:08,090 --> 00:19:10,610 and not cut him off from good. 201 00:19:12,010 --> 00:19:13,530 The fifteenth principle. 202 00:19:14,390 --> 00:19:20,510 Doing what strengthens friendship and sustains affection. 203 00:19:21,810 --> 00:19:27,736 Part of that is: if a person loves a friend for Allah's sake. 204 00:19:27,820 --> 00:19:30,930 let him tell him that he loves him. 205 00:19:32,210 --> 00:19:34,570 The Prophet ﷺ said. 206 00:19:34,670 --> 00:19:39,926 "If one of you loves his brother, let him tell him." 207 00:19:40,010 --> 00:19:44,490 Narrated by Ahmad, Abu Dawud, al-Tirmidhi; authenticated by al-Albani. 208 00:19:46,110 --> 00:19:51,390 Part of that also is visiting friends for Allah's sake. 209 00:19:53,090 --> 00:20:00,310 Today, in our time, this is rare: mutual visits for Allah's sake. 210 00:20:02,170 --> 00:20:06,350 Abu Hurayrah RA reported that the Prophet ﷺ said. 211 00:20:06,990 --> 00:20:11,126 A man visited a brother of his in another village. 212 00:20:11,210 --> 00:20:15,310 So Allah stationed for him an angel on his path. 213 00:20:15,950 --> 00:20:18,530 When he came upon him, he said, "Where are you headed?" 214 00:20:19,110 --> 00:20:22,786 He said, "I am going to a brother of mine in this village." 215 00:20:22,870 --> 00:20:27,250 He asked him: Are you repaying him for some favor? 216 00:20:27,930 --> 00:20:31,470 He said, "No. I only love him for Allah ﷻ." 217 00:20:32,150 --> 00:20:35,466 He said, "Then I am a messenger from Allah to you." 218 00:20:35,550 --> 00:20:39,646 "Allah has loved you as you loved him for His sake." 219 00:20:39,730 --> 00:20:43,806 Narrated by Muslim in Sahih. From Abu Hurayrah RA, who said. 220 00:20:43,890 --> 00:20:48,550 The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: Whoever visits a sick person 221 00:20:49,070 --> 00:20:54,466 or visits a brother for Allah's sake, a caller will call out to him: 222 00:20:54,550 --> 00:20:59,566 May you be blessed, may your path be good, and Paradise be your home. 223 00:20:59,650 --> 00:21:03,386 Narrated by al-Tirmidhi. Graded hasan by al-Albani. 224 00:21:03,470 --> 00:21:09,450 The sixteenth principle: Considering differing natures and minds. 225 00:21:11,070 --> 00:21:17,690 Dealing with family and companions should match how Allah created them. 226 00:21:18,650 --> 00:21:24,330 And Allah ﷻ created people different in their natures. 227 00:21:25,050 --> 00:21:27,170 different in their traits. 228 00:21:27,870 --> 00:21:32,006 such as gentleness and severity, and quick anger. 229 00:21:32,090 --> 00:21:34,470 slow to be pleased, and vice versa. 230 00:21:35,150 --> 00:21:42,726 This is among Allah's signs, showing His greatness ﷻ. Allah ﷻ said. 231 00:21:42,810 --> 00:21:46,326 "And of His signs is the creation of the heavens and the earth." 232 00:21:46,410 --> 00:21:50,196 "and the diversity of your languages and colors." 233 00:21:50,280 --> 00:21:53,870 "Indeed in that are signs for those of knowledge." 234 00:21:54,630 --> 00:21:57,946 Shaykh al-Sa'di RH said. 235 00:21:58,030 --> 00:22:02,410 This is part of His care for His servants and mercy to them. 236 00:22:02,510 --> 00:22:04,630 that He decreed this difference. 237 00:22:05,470 --> 00:22:08,830 lest likeness occur, that is, exact sameness. 238 00:22:09,670 --> 00:22:16,106 and disorder would result, and many aims would be lost. 239 00:22:16,190 --> 00:22:22,126 And just as people differ in their colors and languages. 240 00:22:22,210 --> 00:22:25,786 so they likewise differ in their natures. 241 00:22:25,870 --> 00:22:31,390 Some are good, some are evil; some gentle, and some harsh. 242 00:22:32,010 --> 00:22:34,550 and some are in between. 243 00:22:36,430 --> 00:22:38,930 Abu Musa al-Ash'ari RA reported that 244 00:22:39,650 --> 00:22:43,646 The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said. 245 00:22:43,730 --> 00:22:50,150 "Allah ﷻ created Adam from a handful taken from all the earth. 246 00:22:50,870 --> 00:22:54,630 So Adam's children reflected the earth. 247 00:22:55,270 --> 00:23:00,246 Among them were the white, the red, the black, and those in between. 248 00:23:00,330 --> 00:23:06,770 the bad and the good, the gentle, the harsh, and those in between." 249 00:23:06,870 --> 00:23:11,570 Narrated by Ahmad, Abu Dawud, and al-Tirmidhi; sahih per al-Albani. 250 00:23:12,790 --> 00:23:16,390 Some people have good traits. 251 00:23:17,310 --> 00:23:21,370 Some have vile traits, and some are in between. 252 00:23:22,090 --> 00:23:27,110 Some are easy and gentle, and some are coarse and harsh. 253 00:23:27,870 --> 00:23:38,010 Knowing family and companions' traits helps a person in two matters. 254 00:23:39,490 --> 00:23:48,090 First: to strive to correct what is wrong and work to improve it. 255 00:23:49,040 --> 00:23:55,710 Second: to deal well with them. 256 00:23:57,030 --> 00:24:03,970 This is beneficial for a person in dealing with family and companions. 257 00:24:04,470 --> 00:24:11,926 The seventeenth principle is good character with family and companions. 258 00:24:12,010 --> 00:24:15,506 And this includes all that came before. 259 00:24:15,590 --> 00:24:21,190 Good character is the way to fix what is between one person and another. 260 00:24:22,310 --> 00:24:28,898 Abu Hurayrah RA reported that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ was asked: 261 00:24:28,982 --> 00:24:34,752 What most admits people to Paradise? “Taqwa of Allah and good character.” 262 00:24:35,322 --> 00:24:38,802 Narrated by Ahmad, al-Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah; hasan per al-Albani. 263 00:24:39,562 --> 00:24:41,962 Ibn al-Qayyim (RH) said. 264 00:24:42,082 --> 00:24:48,542 The Prophet ﷺ combined taqwa of Allah and good character. 265 00:24:48,662 --> 00:24:54,902 Because taqwa of Allah sets right what is between the servant and his Lord. 266 00:24:55,682 --> 00:25:01,318 And good character sets right what is between him and Allah's creation. 267 00:25:01,402 --> 00:25:05,758 Thus taqwa of Allah brings him Allah's love. 268 00:25:05,842 --> 00:25:09,322 And good character leads people to love him. 269 00:25:10,402 --> 00:25:16,698 Abdullah ibn Amr RA reported that 270 00:25:16,782 --> 00:25:22,082 "Indeed, the best of you are those with the best character." Agreed upon. 271 00:25:24,182 --> 00:25:30,842 A person's relatives most deserve good treatment and noble character. 272 00:25:31,602 --> 00:25:37,998 Aisha RA said. Allah's Messenger ﷺ said. 273 00:25:38,082 --> 00:25:40,502 "The best of you are those best to their families." 274 00:25:41,322 --> 00:25:44,682 "And I am the best of you to my family." 275 00:25:46,602 --> 00:25:48,982 The Prophet ﷺ said. 276 00:25:49,082 --> 00:25:56,342 "The most complete believers in faith are those best in character." 277 00:25:56,442 --> 00:25:59,622 "And the best of you are those best to their wives." 278 00:26:01,322 --> 00:26:06,638 Reported by al-Tirmidhi. Graded hasan and sahih by al-Albani. 279 00:26:06,722 --> 00:26:13,642 Among the highest forms of good character with family is being such 280 00:26:15,162 --> 00:26:21,302 that his family hopes for his good and feels safe from his harm. 281 00:26:23,582 --> 00:26:30,042 The opposite is when a person is like that with family and companions. 282 00:26:30,862 --> 00:26:34,302 They fear his harm and hope for no good from him. 283 00:26:36,182 --> 00:26:39,622 The highest good character is that your family feel safe from you. 284 00:26:40,822 --> 00:26:49,042 Your companions feel safe from you, and always hope for good from you. 285 00:26:49,142 --> 00:26:58,341 Abu Hurayrah (RA) narrated: Prophet ﷺ came upon seated men and said: 286 00:26:58,482 --> 00:27:01,862 “Shall I tell you the best of you and the worst of you?” 287 00:27:02,642 --> 00:27:07,142 They were silent, so he repeated it three times. 288 00:27:07,982 --> 00:27:13,822 A man said, “Yes, tell us our best and worst, O Messenger of Allah ﷺ.” 289 00:27:15,322 --> 00:27:20,898 “The best of you are those from whom good is hoped, and harm is not feared.” 290 00:27:20,982 --> 00:27:26,158 “The worst of you are those from whom no good is hoped, and harm is feared.” 291 00:27:26,242 --> 00:27:29,322 Reported by Ahmad and al-Tirmidhi, and authenticated by al-Albani. 292 00:27:30,762 --> 00:27:37,122 Part of that is that his family and friends are safe from his hand and tongue. 293 00:27:37,222 --> 00:27:40,302 Both in their presence and absence. I mean in speech. 294 00:27:41,182 --> 00:27:44,278 From Abdullah ibn Amr ibn al-As (RA). 295 00:27:44,362 --> 00:27:49,722 A man asked the Messenger of Allah ﷺ. 296 00:27:49,822 --> 00:27:52,122 Which Muslim is best? He said. 297 00:27:52,262 --> 00:27:55,998 "The one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe." 298 00:27:56,082 --> 00:28:00,562 Narrated by Muslim. The most deserving of this are family and companions. 299 00:28:01,142 --> 00:28:09,182 Principle eighteen: caring for them and shielding them from harm and Hellfire. 300 00:28:10,062 --> 00:28:16,742 Allah ﷻ said, "Believers, save yourselves and your families from a Fire." 301 00:28:16,942 --> 00:28:22,818 "Its fuel is people and stones; over it are angels, harsh and severe." 302 00:28:22,902 --> 00:28:26,502 "They do not disobey Allah and do whatever they are commanded." 303 00:28:27,062 --> 00:28:32,202 He ﷻ also said, "Command your family to pray, and be steadfast in it." 304 00:28:32,822 --> 00:28:37,502 "We ask you not for provision; We provide for you. The end is for piety." 305 00:28:38,002 --> 00:28:41,498 It was narrated from Abdullah ibn Umar RA. 306 00:28:41,582 --> 00:28:45,758 that he heard the Prophet ﷺ say. 307 00:28:45,842 --> 00:28:49,578 "Each of you is a shepherd, responsible for his charge." 308 00:28:49,662 --> 00:28:53,002 "The leader is a shepherd, responsible for his charge." 309 00:28:53,682 --> 00:28:58,442 "A man over his family is a shepherd, responsible for his charge." 310 00:28:59,122 --> 00:29:02,382 "A woman in her husband's home is a shepherd." 311 00:29:03,102 --> 00:29:06,078 "She is responsible for her charge." 312 00:29:06,162 --> 00:29:09,162 "A servant over his master's wealth is a shepherd." 313 00:29:09,622 --> 00:29:12,902 "He is responsible for his charge." Agreed upon. 314 00:29:13,462 --> 00:29:15,902 And in another version in al-Bukhari and Muslim. 315 00:29:16,042 --> 00:29:21,702 "A woman is a shepherd over her husband's house and children." 316 00:29:24,182 --> 00:29:30,878 So long as a person knows he is responsible for this flock. 317 00:29:30,962 --> 00:29:34,842 he must care for them. 318 00:29:36,102 --> 00:29:41,742 Great care includes guarding them from causes that lead to the Fire. 319 00:29:43,182 --> 00:29:48,798 From Ibn Umar (RA), the Prophet ﷺ said. 320 00:29:48,882 --> 00:29:55,602 “Allah ﷻ entrusts no servant with a charge, small or great.” 321 00:29:55,702 --> 00:29:59,888 “Allah ﷻ will ask him about it on Judgment Day.” 322 00:29:59,972 --> 00:30:05,508 “Did he uphold among them Allah's command, or neglect it?” 323 00:30:05,592 --> 00:30:10,662 “He even asks him specifically about his household.” Narrated by Ahmad. 324 00:30:11,582 --> 00:30:16,618 And al-Hasan narrated that the Prophet ﷺ said. 325 00:30:16,702 --> 00:30:21,458 “Allah will question every shepherd about what was entrusted to him.” 326 00:30:21,542 --> 00:30:28,278 “Did he preserve it or neglect it? A man is even asked about his household.” 327 00:30:28,362 --> 00:30:34,960 Reported by Ibn Hibban and graded hasan by al-Albani. 328 00:30:35,044 --> 00:30:41,674 Brothers, this is what was made easy to present of these principles. 329 00:30:42,714 --> 00:30:47,870 In the time available to us in this course. 330 00:30:47,954 --> 00:30:52,734 And if Allah ﷻ wills, as I promised in the first session. 331 00:30:53,594 --> 00:30:57,674 or in today's second session. 332 00:30:58,494 --> 00:31:02,654 I will organize the material. 333 00:31:03,974 --> 00:31:11,150 And add to what I mentioned and presented. 334 00:31:11,234 --> 00:31:14,134 What I did not present of what I had wanted to present. 335 00:31:15,094 --> 00:31:18,914 in this topic, I mean the principles of dealing with family and companions. 336 00:31:20,254 --> 00:31:23,134 along with the second matter and the third, if Allah wills. 337 00:31:24,134 --> 00:31:29,874 Then I will submit that to the brothers overseeing the course. 338 00:31:29,974 --> 00:31:33,850 and it will be delivered to the brothers and sisters, Allah willing. 339 00:31:33,934 --> 00:31:37,910 in the best form, if Allah ﷻ wills. 340 00:31:37,994 --> 00:31:44,754 Perhaps we will stop at this point and answer the questions we can. 341 00:31:45,334 --> 00:31:50,813 Tomorrow, if Allah ﷻ wills, our sessions will be enjoyable. 342 00:31:51,414 --> 00:31:55,674 because we will be with the Messenger of Allah ﷺ. 343 00:31:56,294 --> 00:31:59,854 We will be with the Messenger of Allah ﷺ among his family. 344 00:32:00,854 --> 00:32:03,714 and we will point out the related benefits. 345 00:32:04,374 --> 00:32:08,114 We will be with the Messenger of Allah ﷺ among his Companions. 346 00:32:08,874 --> 00:32:13,734 and we will point out the benefits related to that. Yes. 347 00:32:15,814 --> 00:32:21,134 May Allah reward you, our shaykh, and bless you. A sister asks. 348 00:32:21,574 --> 00:32:25,694 She cannot visit her elderly mother in her home country. 349 00:32:26,314 --> 00:32:31,094 because of difficult financial circumstances, and she is in debt. 350 00:32:31,574 --> 00:32:36,570 She tried to get permission from the creditor, but he refused. 351 00:32:36,654 --> 00:32:39,770 Is that considered being undutiful to her parents. 352 00:32:39,854 --> 00:32:46,170 Given that she keeps in touch with her by phone when she can. 353 00:32:46,254 --> 00:32:51,054 since her mother is in a distant village where services are unavailable? 354 00:32:53,034 --> 00:32:58,974 The answer to this question rests on two principles. 355 00:33:00,674 --> 00:33:03,830 The first principle is what Allah ﷻ says. 356 00:33:03,914 --> 00:33:05,934 “So fear Allah ﷻ as much as you are able.” 357 00:33:07,214 --> 00:33:09,530 And the Prophet ﷺ said. 358 00:33:09,614 --> 00:33:13,274 "If I command you to do something, do what you can." 359 00:33:15,314 --> 00:33:21,530 The duties and obligations required of a Muslim. 360 00:33:21,614 --> 00:33:23,754 depend only on ability. 361 00:33:26,554 --> 00:33:32,194 If she is unable, there is no duty with incapacity. 362 00:33:35,034 --> 00:33:41,130 This sister says she cannot. 363 00:33:41,214 --> 00:33:43,294 visit her mother in her home country. 364 00:33:45,094 --> 00:33:50,134 because of what prevents her, namely her lack of means. 365 00:33:52,314 --> 00:33:54,034 So we say: she is not obligated. 366 00:33:55,594 --> 00:33:59,314 But she should maintain ties with her mother as best she can. 367 00:34:01,094 --> 00:34:03,414 such as by calling her. 368 00:34:05,014 --> 00:34:10,274 If possible, she should arrange for someone local to care for her mother. 369 00:34:11,354 --> 00:34:14,814 Then that is called for. But if that is not possible. 370 00:34:16,094 --> 00:34:19,554 Then what a person cannot do is not required of him. 371 00:34:22,154 --> 00:34:25,934 What matters is that she be dutiful to her mother as best she can. 372 00:34:27,934 --> 00:34:33,594 And something everyone can do is supplication, which we often neglect. 373 00:34:35,154 --> 00:34:37,494 Part of dutifulness is praying for your parents. 374 00:34:39,894 --> 00:34:42,414 And to pray for them often. 375 00:34:44,834 --> 00:34:49,974 Even in their presence, for that brings joy to hearts. 376 00:34:51,654 --> 00:34:59,760 The second principle is that if a Muslim is sincere in his resolve. 377 00:34:59,844 --> 00:35:07,654 to do good but is held back by an obstacle, he gets that reward. 378 00:35:09,954 --> 00:35:13,654 And this is Allah's favor upon the Ummah of Muhammad ﷺ. 379 00:35:14,854 --> 00:35:21,810 If the heart is sincere and the limbs are unable due to an obstacle. 380 00:35:21,894 --> 00:35:26,274 the person is given the reward of the deed as though he had done it. 381 00:35:29,094 --> 00:35:32,214 Whether he used to do it before or not. 382 00:35:34,034 --> 00:35:39,094 By the stronger scholarly view, what matters is heart's sincerity. 383 00:35:39,854 --> 00:35:43,114 That the heart be sincere. 384 00:35:45,074 --> 00:35:52,514 So whoever is sincere in his intention yet unable to act due to an obstacle. 385 00:35:54,014 --> 00:35:59,774 the reward of what he intended is written, even if he never did so. 386 00:36:00,934 --> 00:36:03,914 If he used to do it before, no issue. 387 00:36:05,334 --> 00:36:10,494 If a servant falls ill or travels, what he used to do is written for him. 388 00:36:11,654 --> 00:36:16,814 So this applies to prior practice. 389 00:36:16,954 --> 00:36:21,314 But the correct view is that even if he had not done it before. 390 00:36:23,094 --> 00:36:27,374 and intended it, but an obstacle prevented him, his reward is written. 391 00:36:27,614 --> 00:36:30,894 So we say to our sister: if your intention is sincere. 392 00:36:32,594 --> 00:36:36,154 And if an obstacle prevented you from doing what you wanted. 393 00:36:36,674 --> 00:36:41,690 Then you will be rewarded for what you intended. Praise be to Allah. 394 00:36:42,250 --> 00:36:47,510 And this is Allah's favor upon the Ummah of Muhammad ﷺ. Yes. 395 00:36:49,050 --> 00:36:52,666 May Allah reward you, Shaykh. A questioner asks. 396 00:36:52,750 --> 00:36:55,846 For months, I haven't seen my two little girls. 397 00:36:55,930 --> 00:36:59,606 The reason is that I married a second wife out of necessity. 398 00:36:59,690 --> 00:37:02,746 My first wife prevented me from seeing my daughters. 399 00:37:02,830 --> 00:37:05,930 She even says “Consider them orphaned.” 400 00:37:06,570 --> 00:37:09,890 She is righteous and listens to you. 401 00:37:10,650 --> 00:37:14,726 She left me and cut off all contact with my daughters. 402 00:37:14,810 --> 00:37:18,646 And it was not enough for her that I woke her for night prayer. 403 00:37:18,730 --> 00:37:22,470 I explained the texts to her. And I cared for her religion. 404 00:37:23,090 --> 00:37:26,130 I still pray for her and do not claim perfection. 405 00:37:26,690 --> 00:37:30,710 So what is the advice and admonition? May Allah set everyone right. 406 00:37:32,030 --> 00:37:33,050 We seek Allah's help. 407 00:37:33,850 --> 00:37:37,510 I ask Allah ﷻ, by His Beautiful Names and His lofty attributes. 408 00:37:38,390 --> 00:37:44,430 to mend things between you and your two wives, and set you right for them. 409 00:37:45,690 --> 00:37:49,810 May He guide you all and grant you success in what He loves and approves. 410 00:37:49,930 --> 00:37:53,116 I ask Allah by His Beautiful Names and His lofty attributes. 411 00:37:53,200 --> 00:37:57,610 to mend what is between every husband and wife. 412 00:37:58,610 --> 00:38:03,890 to set right every husband for his wife, and every wife for hers. 413 00:38:05,210 --> 00:38:10,430 and fill the believers' homes with goodness, guidance, piety, happiness. 414 00:38:13,150 --> 00:38:14,830 If matters are as you said. 415 00:38:17,550 --> 00:38:21,890 then a man's marrying a second wife is not a crime. 416 00:38:24,130 --> 00:38:30,030 Nor is it any deficiency in the first wife; Allah ordained it. 417 00:38:31,890 --> 00:38:34,430 for one who meets its conditions. 418 00:38:36,850 --> 00:38:40,690 So whoever is able to be just in what lies within his control. 419 00:38:44,730 --> 00:38:47,150 then his marrying a second wife is not a crime. 420 00:38:48,950 --> 00:38:57,270 And a believing woman may not punish him over this. 421 00:38:58,810 --> 00:39:03,270 A woman's dislike of her husband marrying again is natural. 422 00:39:04,310 --> 00:39:11,080 She is not blamed for that. Wanting him not to marry again is natural. 423 00:39:11,430 --> 00:39:17,590 We do not ask a woman to wish that he marry again; that is not required. 424 00:39:18,930 --> 00:39:25,790 But if it happens, she should not see it as a crime. 425 00:39:27,250 --> 00:39:34,610 As TV series and the like teach: this only means a flaw in the first wife. 426 00:39:34,710 --> 00:39:39,750 and that he is a criminal and a traitor. Such a view is impermissible. 427 00:39:41,650 --> 00:39:46,830 And no God-fearing believing woman may punish him over this. 428 00:39:48,010 --> 00:39:54,770 Such as withholding herself from him. Rather, she must give him his due. 429 00:39:56,450 --> 00:40:00,690 If he asks her for intimacy, she may not refuse him. 430 00:40:06,710 --> 00:40:09,590 And she must work on herself. 431 00:40:11,850 --> 00:40:18,589 If it reaches the point that she can never give him his due. 432 00:40:21,450 --> 00:40:29,206 Then let her ask his pardon and say: I can't give you your due, so forgive me. 433 00:40:29,290 --> 00:40:32,950 Waive your right. I want to stay with you, for example. 434 00:40:36,830 --> 00:40:44,790 Otherwise, there will be separation. Not advised, especially with children. 435 00:40:47,530 --> 00:40:51,610 Punishing him by withholding herself from him is haram and not allowed. 436 00:40:52,630 --> 00:40:58,209 Or punish him by denying him access to his children, even if divorce occurs. 437 00:40:59,290 --> 00:41:06,510 We said in the great principle that companionship is built on kindness. 438 00:41:07,270 --> 00:41:11,210 And separation is built on good conduct. 439 00:41:12,170 --> 00:41:18,220 After separation, recall past favors, remember them, and do not forget them. 440 00:41:21,330 --> 00:41:22,830 Even if divorce occurs. 441 00:41:23,670 --> 00:41:27,850 A woman may not prevent her husband from seeing his children. 442 00:41:29,010 --> 00:41:31,690 Nor from seeing his offspring. 443 00:41:33,790 --> 00:41:37,380 So I advise myself and all my brothers to fear Allah. 444 00:41:39,870 --> 00:41:42,770 And that we follow the Sharia principles we mentioned. 445 00:41:43,570 --> 00:41:47,990 We outlined their foundations in these sessions. 446 00:41:50,310 --> 00:41:56,046 Nor should one seek personal revenge using what Allah did not allow. 447 00:41:56,130 --> 00:42:00,990 That is if there was an offense. So what if there was no offense? 448 00:42:03,610 --> 00:42:09,090 We must be mindful of Allah in all our deeds and states. Yes. 449 00:42:10,670 --> 00:42:15,210 May Allah reward you, our Shaykh, and bless you. A woman asks. 450 00:42:15,890 --> 00:42:21,066 I have sisters, and very sadly, they indulge in backbiting and gossip. 451 00:42:21,150 --> 00:42:25,650 and in driving wedges between siblings and spouses. 452 00:42:26,210 --> 00:42:29,110 I have been greatly hurt by them over the years. 453 00:42:29,670 --> 00:42:35,070 Is it permissible to cut them off and reconnect only on Eids and occasions? 454 00:42:35,610 --> 00:42:37,690 And what is your advice in this matter? 455 00:42:38,210 --> 00:42:42,466 This resembles a question from yesterday. 456 00:42:42,586 --> 00:42:49,286 In any case, first I say, brothers, don't view relatives darkly. 457 00:42:53,326 --> 00:42:59,426 A person should not look at them with a pessimistic eye. 458 00:43:01,566 --> 00:43:12,946 Sadly, in our time, backbiting outweighs kind words. 459 00:43:19,146 --> 00:43:21,346 And attempts to sow discord are many. 460 00:43:23,266 --> 00:43:29,586 But first I say: do not view our relatives and family so darkly. 461 00:43:29,686 --> 00:43:33,506 Rather, we should think well of them. 462 00:43:36,306 --> 00:43:38,506 If there is harm and injury. 463 00:43:40,026 --> 00:43:49,346 Then a person may do things or leave them. 464 00:43:49,946 --> 00:43:52,936 Whatever reduces the harm or wards it off. 465 00:43:53,066 --> 00:43:54,986 And leave whatever leads to harm. 466 00:43:56,386 --> 00:44:01,066 But without shunning, without severing ties. 467 00:44:02,506 --> 00:44:08,086 Then reduce contact, or make it by phone or the like. 468 00:44:08,186 --> 00:44:10,416 This was discussed yesterday. Yes. 469 00:44:11,246 --> 00:44:15,162 May Allah reward you, our Shaykh. A questioner asks. 470 00:44:15,246 --> 00:44:20,586 Whenever I go to visit my father, he usually insults and drives me away. 471 00:44:21,026 --> 00:44:24,046 without any justification. What is the ruling in this case? 472 00:44:24,206 --> 00:44:28,146 Kiss his head and his hand, and pray to Allah for him. 473 00:44:29,726 --> 00:44:31,946 You only came into this world through him. 474 00:44:32,946 --> 00:44:39,746 And he is the one who raised you. He cared for you when small, though harsh. 475 00:44:41,986 --> 00:44:45,466 No matter how badly he treats you, he is your father. 476 00:44:47,126 --> 00:44:49,906 Even if he called you to shirk, he is still your father. 477 00:44:56,676 --> 00:44:59,506 Endure, and be patient for Allah's sake. 478 00:45:00,986 --> 00:45:03,506 Be gentle with your father, and do good, and do good. 479 00:45:05,026 --> 00:45:09,146 And Allah ﷻ says, "Repel evil with what is best." 480 00:45:10,106 --> 00:45:13,836 "Then the one between you and him was at enmity will be a close friend." 481 00:45:14,866 --> 00:45:16,806 So what then of a father? 482 00:45:18,966 --> 00:45:26,706 The more he persists in harshness, the more you honor him for Allah ﷻ. 483 00:45:28,046 --> 00:45:35,046 And endure. This leads, by Allah's leave, to honor here and in the Hereafter. 484 00:45:36,826 --> 00:45:42,326 And Allah will grant you victory, support you, and protect you, protect you. 485 00:45:44,626 --> 00:45:49,546 My advice, brothers, is to honor your parents at all times. 486 00:45:50,586 --> 00:45:52,566 even if they mistreat you. 487 00:45:53,886 --> 00:46:01,606 Honor them with your speech; never let them hear anything hurtful, even 'uff'. 488 00:46:03,446 --> 00:46:06,166 Honor them by keeping ties and treating them well. 489 00:46:12,906 --> 00:46:18,786 Fear Allah regarding your parents; ask Allah, and make much supplication. 490 00:46:20,966 --> 00:46:23,146 that Allah guide your father. 491 00:46:24,366 --> 00:46:27,726 By Allah, brothers, by Allah, by Allah, a young man came to my house. 492 00:46:29,246 --> 00:46:31,286 He said, 'Shaykh, Dad was harsh to me.' 493 00:46:34,186 --> 00:46:40,726 And I repaid him with harshness and distanced myself from him. 494 00:46:42,846 --> 00:46:44,986 Now he has died, and I regret it. 495 00:46:52,166 --> 00:46:58,206 He was my father. I felt his loss and regretted what I had done. 496 00:47:02,486 --> 00:47:06,606 He was crying. We explained it to him and advised him. 497 00:47:06,706 --> 00:47:09,106 and showed him how to honor them after death. 498 00:47:11,246 --> 00:47:14,786 But brothers, by Allah, a father, whatever he is, is a blessing. 499 00:47:16,866 --> 00:47:19,066 And whatever a mother is, she is a blessing. 500 00:47:20,466 --> 00:47:26,006 No one truly knows this blessing except the one who lost it. 501 00:47:26,706 --> 00:47:29,346 Though the wise know it while their parents are present. 502 00:47:29,906 --> 00:47:33,886 But its true worth is only known by one who lost this blessing. 503 00:47:35,486 --> 00:47:37,585 They are the path and gates of Paradise. 504 00:47:42,326 --> 00:47:45,066 Strive against yourself, be patient and steadfast. 505 00:47:45,966 --> 00:47:49,506 And my brother, always remember: the price is Paradise. 506 00:47:50,926 --> 00:47:54,086 Nothing is dearer, sweeter, or loftier than it. 507 00:47:55,946 --> 00:47:57,726 Be patient, persevere, stand firm. 508 00:47:59,846 --> 00:48:03,686 And you will see goodness and success in this life and the next. 509 00:48:04,946 --> 00:48:07,746 May Allah reward you, our Shaykh, and bless you. 510 00:48:08,406 --> 00:48:10,442 What is the remedy for arrogance and envy? 511 00:48:10,526 --> 00:48:16,646 For one who feels it in his heart yet neither shows nor acts on it? 512 00:48:19,546 --> 00:48:23,046 The cure for all diseases of the heart. 513 00:48:26,546 --> 00:48:29,626 The greatest cure for that is the Noble Qur'an. 514 00:48:31,806 --> 00:48:37,706 The Qur'an is a cure. Nothing heals hearts like it. 515 00:48:39,206 --> 00:48:45,046 Read the Qur'an often, with reflection. Your heart will soften. 516 00:48:46,766 --> 00:48:52,752 And know your heart will be sound. 517 00:48:52,836 --> 00:49:01,796 Second: read hadiths of the Prophet ﷺ and the seerah of the Prophet ﷺ. 518 00:49:06,316 --> 00:49:13,456 Third: read the lives of the righteous salaf (RA). 519 00:49:18,216 --> 00:49:21,115 Fourth: keep company with the righteous. 520 00:49:23,816 --> 00:49:34,316 A person gains from the righteous qualities he may not possess. 521 00:49:38,996 --> 00:49:45,536 Fifth: abundant supplication especially at night. 522 00:49:47,576 --> 00:49:52,636 My brother, nothing draws down mercy. Nothing draws down forgiveness. 523 00:49:52,896 --> 00:49:57,036 Nothing brings blessings like supplication in the depth of night. 524 00:49:59,496 --> 00:50:04,776 When you are alone with Allah ﷻ at night, pray to Him and offer Witr. 525 00:50:05,556 --> 00:50:07,996 Supplicate in prayer and after prayer. 526 00:50:10,436 --> 00:50:19,406 By Allah, this great act brings goodness, mercy, blessing, pardon. 527 00:50:26,876 --> 00:50:32,996 Also, what softens hearts is for a person to remember death. 528 00:50:33,996 --> 00:50:40,996 and what comes after death, and remember what is with Allah. 529 00:50:42,996 --> 00:50:48,236 And remember the punishment Allah has prepared for the arrogant. 530 00:50:50,856 --> 00:50:55,692 Then know, may Allah grant you success, that part of success is this. 531 00:50:55,776 --> 00:51:01,595 Whoever finds an ugly trait in himself should not act on it. 532 00:51:03,536 --> 00:51:07,636 He should strive against himself not to act upon it. 533 00:51:07,916 --> 00:51:14,246 A person may be stingy, yes, but not obey his stinginess. 534 00:51:16,196 --> 00:51:19,876 That is good, and he is working on himself. 535 00:51:21,156 --> 00:51:23,156 The real trial is obeying stinginess. 536 00:51:24,416 --> 00:51:29,526 There may be pride in a person, but he does not obey it. 537 00:51:30,996 --> 00:51:34,492 Rather, he treats people humbly. 538 00:51:34,576 --> 00:51:37,686 Even if he finds pride in his heart, he works on himself. 539 00:51:38,636 --> 00:51:41,376 And this is from Allah's granting success to His servant. 540 00:51:41,825 --> 00:51:44,676 And I say in closing. 541 00:51:46,156 --> 00:51:50,956 If a person places his need before Allah. 542 00:51:52,756 --> 00:51:57,376 He will soon be answered. Turn sincerely and truthfully to Allah. 543 00:52:00,456 --> 00:52:04,092 Whoever is with Allah, Allah ﷻ is with him. 544 00:52:04,176 --> 00:52:06,352 Whoever is true to Allah, Allah proves him true. 545 00:52:06,436 --> 00:52:09,372 That Companion said, O Messenger of Allah. 546 00:52:09,456 --> 00:52:12,086 I did not go with you for booty. 547 00:52:12,436 --> 00:52:16,676 I went out only to be struck here and have it come out here. 548 00:52:17,456 --> 00:52:21,016 The Prophet ﷺ said: If true to Allah, Allah proves him true. 549 00:52:22,616 --> 00:52:29,432 After the battle they found him hit by an arrow where he had pointed. 550 00:52:29,516 --> 00:52:36,296 It exited where he had pointed. He was true to Allah. Be true to Allah. 551 00:52:38,036 --> 00:52:40,996 Most of our failings come from not being true to Allah ﷻ. 552 00:52:42,656 --> 00:52:46,876 Be truthful with Allah ﷻ. You will find goodness from Him. 553 00:52:47,296 --> 00:52:49,892 May Allah grant all success. We'll meet tomorrow, Allah willing. 554 00:52:49,976 --> 00:52:53,056 Allah Most High knows best. Blessings and peace on our Prophet ﷺ.